Submitted By: Lauren Colasacco
I recently read an article on paternity and fathers who are legally
obligated to continue paying child support after they discover that
the child is not theirs. This article shows that, sometimes, the law
can have a human face, where children are involved. The article
appeared in NYTimes Magazine on November 17th.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/22/magazine/22Paternity-t.html
The article explained that men who learn they are not the biological
fathers of the children they have raised, loved and cared for must
continue to pay child support for those children (even if the
biological father has returned to the picture). The only exception to
this appears to be if the father stops all contact with the child;
ends the relationship. The courts explained that it is in the best
interest of the child to be cared for by the father he or she has know
his or her whole life. A parent cannot disengage from the
responsibilities of parenthood while maintaining the benefits of
spending time with his “child.”
Generally the law only regulates the physical, tangible world–broken
bones, stolen property–but where children are concerned proof of
genetic relationship seems to be a mere detail. Courts protect
children from the dramatic relationships of their parents–their
mothers, fathers, step-fathers, etc etc. From the eyes of a child, I
think the courts got it right. A child develops a bond with his or
her father the day he or she is born. A baby does not know if their
father is related to them by genetics, and that baby does not care.
Babies need love, food, shelter and a host of other things that
fathers can provide, whether they be genetically linked to their child
or not. Good fathers grow to love their children when they hold them
in their arms and spend time with them. This is true whether or not
those fathers are genetically related to their babies or not. After
all, we would not contest the fact that adoptive parents love their
children with the same strength and passion as biological parents.
Perhaps it seems unfair that a child can live with her biological
parents, while a duped father (present since birth with his name on
the birth certificate) continues to pay child support. But, perhaps
that is the price a man pays to spend every weekend with the child he
loves. While DNA evidence can be crucial in murder trials, rape and
other criminal investigations, it does not tell the whole story in
paternity suits. It’s commendable that courts looks beyond cheek
swabs and blood tests, and impose the responsibilities of paternity
where fatherhood has been established and lifelong bonds have been
forged between father and child.
