By Anne Kim
Last week, through a cascade of cheeky, cajoling, and continuous text
messages, my (non-law school) friends convinced me to take a break
from studying and meet them for dinner. Four guys hatched a scheme to
talk their significant others into joining them for a feast of baby
back ribs – and it worked. Notwithstanding multiple protests of lack
of time and need to study (three of the girls had final exams
looming), the original party of four became a party of eight. Once our
group of mid-late 20-somethings had gathered, one of the
co-conspirators turned to the other and said, “It’s great to see that
peer pressure still works.”
When it comes to peer pressure, age really is just a number, and the
advances of social networking through the Internet have only
multiplied the spheres that can influence a person. The influence is
unconfined, with the potential to expand to polar opposites, and
though tales from both ends of the spectrum make the rounds, it is the
stories where the bad guy gets his just desserts that leave us with
the gut-deep satisfaction of a real happy ending.
Our in-class discussions regarding moral censure led to the ways in
which society works to dispense justice when the legal system is
remiss in fulfilling its duties. In the aftermath of the Bernie Madoff
Ponzi scandal, his wife Ruth Madoff experienced it firsthand. Though
her innocence remained intact in the legal sense, she did not go
unpunished for lack of prosecution. Four months after her husband was
arrested, stories broke about how Mrs. Madoff was no longer welcome at
the hair salon she had been frequenting for nearly a decade. Her
response? “I understand.” A florist and high-end restaurants followed
suit, her two sons began to refer to the Madoffs as “Ruth” and
“Bernie,” and the New York Times labeled her “The Loneliest Woman in
New York.”
Shortly thereafter, another story ran about Ruth Madoff finally
breaking her silence. Mr. Madoff was quoted as saying his wife “cries
herself to sleep every night” and she issued a statement expressing
sympathy for the victims. The statement also included the sense of
betrayal she felt from what her husband had done. While her initial
response to being ostracized reflected understanding and acceptance of
her role in the scheme, the statement add-on relegating responsibility
to her husband has the marks of what Professor Rosenbaum would call “a
typical American apology.” Something along the lines of, “I’m sorry
YOU think I’ve done something wrong.”
Here, even though society acted to show its disapproval, the seemingly
unrepentant Mrs. Madoff leaves a sour aftertaste. Many would say an
insincere apology is better left unsaid. Nonetheless, the small
rebuffs within our power give some amount of comfort that the people
have spoken in a way she can’t ignore.
On a more positive note, here is an example of a creative way to use
peer pressure to get results. On December 8, Time released its Top 10
Lists for 2009. Of them, “United Breaks Guitars” was number seven on
the Viral Video list. The creator of the music video is Canadian
country singer Dave Carroll. After flying on United Airlines, Mr.
Carroll was left with a broken guitar and technicalities denied him a
claim that would have only reimbursed him for one-third of the
guitar’s value. To retaliate, Mr. Carroll vowed to write and make
three music videos about the entire ordeal (two are viewable online).
A million views after the first one was posted, he was contacted about
a reimbursement. Mr. Carroll also posted a video statement expressing
thanks for the public’s support and asking people to ease up on the
harsh treatment of the airline employee who handled his case. A
detailed account is on his website at http://www.davecarrollmusic.com.
